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Anyone who's ever been to Jo'Burg on Long Street will have seen various German men dotted around the fringes (why is it always the Germans?

Then there are the fat, rich, old British men you see strolling around the Waterfront with beautiful black girls half their size and half their age.

Initially, I get angry at all of these people for dirtying the image of what my partner and I are by association, but then I realize that this makes me just as judgmental as the people who judge us, or at the very least equally primed to jump to certain conclusions.

Having said that, this doesn't mean that our differences define our relationship, for we are also so very similar in so many ways.

The sooner that more people come to realize this the better - not only for us, but also for them.

Never mind that every girlfriend I had before that was white.

I suppose you might blame it all on the legacies of apartheid, but it's certainly not only my South African friends that are guilty.

I sometimes wonder how many people are scared of the idea of cross-racial dating or relationships by all of this nonsense - all the assumptions, stereotypes and judgments that they would have to deal with from other people. Many friends tell my partner and I that we are so lucky to have each other and to love each other like we do.

But how many people in South Africa, and elsewhere no doubt, are dramatically reducing the pool from which they might be able to draw someone they really love, just by their inability to consider being with someone who happens to have a different skin color?

It's a small adjustment to a very real article that some white Aussie guy called Jonno Something-or-other wrote for Vice a couple of years back entitled 'How to Date South African Girls', which has recently resurfaced on social media.

The title of this post is, however, not just for click bait purposes.

So I try to tell myself that maybe it isn't what it looks like.

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